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The Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Patient - A Case Study
"Personality Disorders Revisited" (450 pages e-book) - click HERE to purchase!
By: Dr. Sam Vaknin
Disclaimer
The Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder appears in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for Further Study."
Notes of first therapy session with Mike, male, 52, diagnosed with Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder
Mike is attending therapy at the request of his wife. She complains that he is "emotionally absent" and aloof. Mike shrugs: "We used to have a great marriage, but good things don't last. You can't sustain the same levels of passion and interest throughout the relationship." Isn't his family worth the effort? Another shrug: "It doesn't pay to be a good husband or a good father. Look what my loving wife did to me. In any case, at my age the future is behind me. Carpe Diem is my motto."
Does he consider his wife's demands to be unreasonable? He flares: "With all due respect, that's between me and my spouse." Then why is he wasting his time and mine? "I didn't ask to be here." Did he prepare a list of things he would like to see improved in his family life? He forgot. Can he compile it for our next meeting? Only if nothing more urgent pops up. It would be difficult to continue to work together if he doesn't keep his promises. He understands and he will see what he can do about it (without great conviction).
The problem is, he says, that he regards psychotherapy as a form of con-artistry: "psychotherapists are snake oil salesmen, latter-day witch doctors, only less efficient." He hates to feel cheated or deceived. Does he often feel that way? He laughs dismissively: he is too clever for run-of-the-mill crooks. He is often underestimated by them.
Do other people besides crooks underestimate him? He admits to being unappreciated and underpaid at work. It bothers him. He deserves more than that. Obsequious intellectual midgets rise to the top in every organization, he observes with virulent envy. How does he cope with this discrepancy between the way he perceives himself and the way others, evidently, evaluate him? He ignores such fools. How can one ignore one's co-workers and one's superiors? He doesn't talk to them. In other words, he sulks?
Not always. He sometimes tries to "enlighten and educate" people he deems "worthy". It often gets him into arguments and he has acquired a reputation as a cantankerous curmudgeon but he doesn't care. Is he an impatient or irritable person? "What do you think?" - he counters - "During this session did I ever lose my cool?" Frequently. He half rises from his chair then thinks better of it and settles down. "Do your thing" - he says sullenly and contemptuously - "Let's get it over with."
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The Masochistic Patient - A Case Study
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By: Dr. Sam Vaknin
Disclaimer
The Masochistic personality disorder was included in the DSM III-TR but removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. This move was criticized by some scholars, notably Theodore Millon.
Notes of first therapy session with Sam, male, 46, diagnosed with Masochistic Personality Disorder
Sam is an advertising executive. He keeps sending letters with damaging and incriminating information about himself to various online, print, and electronic media. He knows that it is an extreme form of self-destructive and self-defeating behavior, but "it feels good afterwards, like I am cleansed." Does he enjoy it? He recoils: "Enjoy is a strong word." What things and pastimes does he find pleasurable? He likes classical music. When was the last time he has been to a concert? He can't remember.
Sam is gregarious and somewhat narcissistic. He likes being the center of attention. Still, he is a virtual hermit. He rarely exits his home and spends all his time in solitary activities. Why does he abstain from social contact? He tends to make a fool of himself: he often gets drunk and then loses control of what he says and does. "And that is not fun!" - he concludes sadly.
Sam is homosexual. He craves a stable and long-term relationship but keeps finding himself involved with unsuitable partners. These brief and stormy liaisons invariably end in heartbreak and financial ruin. Why didn't he seek help before? "I don't need help" - he sounds resentful - "I need advice." OK, then why didn't he seek advice before? He murmurs something inaudibly but refuses to share it with me. When I insist, Sam confesses that he has been to therapy a few years ago.
"She gave me all the wrong advice."- he complains and proceeds to list his former therapist's suggestions. I inform him that he is likely to receive very similar guidance from me and offer to assist him to assimilate these lessons, gain insights, and act of them. "That's more than I had bargained for when I came here." - he frowns - "Therapy is not exactly my idea of intimacy or companionships." I am not offering either, I tell him, merely support and some knowledge regarding the workings of the human mind.
But he is still on edge: "I understand that you practice brief therapy." Yes, that's true. "This means that we can see results in one or two sessions?" Sometimes. "Sounds more like brainwashing to me!" - he declares - "I don't like people tinkering with my mind like that." People always tinker with other people's minds. This is what fields like advertising and political campaigning and, yes, psychotherapy, are all about. "Cut you down to size." - he sneers - "Conform or die!"
Sam feels constantly manipulated by people who pretend to care about him. "Love" is a code word for subjugation on the one hand and obsequiousness on the other hand. Only weak people develop such dependence. He is shocked by the fact that I fully concur: "Love and dependence are mutually-exclusive."
At work, Sam is much loved and admired. He is known for his willingness to help others with their tasks. He dedicates time and attention and puts lots of efforts into these altruistic excursions while neglecting to attend to his own clients and thus jeopardising his standing in the firm and his career.
The only time Sam had a row with his superior was when he was promoted. "I didn't want the new job, though I admit that it far better suited my qualifications and experience." - he explains. He remembers the incident because that night he had a near-fatal accident. "Saved by the wheel" - he laughs disingenuously - "Someone else got the job while I languished at the hospital."
"What do you think of my story?" - asks Sam - "Am I not a pathetic piece of work?" When I ignore the bait, he proceeds to taunt and provoke me: "What's the matter, Doc? As a therapist, aren't you supposed to answer truthfully? Am I not the most screwed up, hopeless, miserable imitation of a person you ever came across in your practice?"
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The Delusional Way Out
Case Studies
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The Histrionic
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The Schizotypal
The Obsessive-Compulsive
The Dependent
Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive)
The Sadist
The Depressive
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Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He served as a columnist for Global Politician, Central Europe Review, PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.
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