When your marriage ends feeling grief is a natural part of the loss of
the family structure and the significant relationship, whether the
decision was mutual, or thrust upon you'both parties suffer.
Grief has various stages and the intense emotions that occur can make
it difficult to make the many decisions that are required.
In my role as a Life Coach, I rely on both my professional knowledge
and personal experience'proffering different options and alternatives
for the resolution of issues' to help couples communicate and
negotiate effectively'financial, emotional, dividing tangible
possessions and co-parenting.
However, we know that emotions can impair the ability to make informed
decisions. This is the reason that I also help divorcing people
understand and manage the grief process. Grief is relevant in divorce
because everyone is vulnerable to it during and after experiencing a
major loss.
Many enter the divorce settlement negotiation in the early stages of
grief and vacillate between denial and feelings of sadness, anger and
wanting to retaliate. Others readily enter into the acceptance stage;
they have made peace with the loss of their marriage and are ready to
build a new life'therefore sadness, grief, anger and retaliation are
absent. Others systematically diminish the uncomfortable feelings
attendant to grief through using alcohol, drugs, work, sex and other
self-medication. Some diminish the uncomfortable feelings with
sleeping pills and/or antidepressants....

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