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Claire Swazey  
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 More options Jun 28 1998, 3:00 am
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From: Claire Swazey <swa...@home.com>
Date: 1998/06/28
Subject: Disconnection

I am writing this from my perspective and based on my experiences, and
no one else's.  I have noticed a great deal of coverage and concern on
the subject of disconnection and Scientologists.  Here's what I know
about it:

Disconnection would be primarily used when someone one is associated
with is antagonistic to the individual Scientologist.  Maybe because of
his involvement in Scn, or it could be for any other reason in which the
Scn'ologist is being given a very bad time to the point where they are
absolutely miserable.  The individual is encouraged to work things out
and communicate with whoever it is he isn't getting along with.  That's
where the biggest emphasis is.  Disconnection should only be used as a
last resort where nothing else is going to work.

I have seen postings here where you folks have recounted things you
heard where people were disconnected from where the implications were
that this was being used as emotional blackmail (as in: if you don't
believe what I believe and be a member of the group I'm a member of,I'm
going to have nothing to do with you) A particularly poignant example
was one Andreas quoted from, I believe, the Op Clambake guestbook, where
a woman told him that her husband had disconnected from their two young
children because they weren't scn'ologists.  3 possibilities arise that
I can see:

1) Didn't happen.
2) Did happen,but there were missing facts.
3) Happened exactly as purported.

For the purposes of this posting, I will go with possibility #3. If this
is the case, then Daddy is an absolute creep,using emotional blackmail
and/or an excuse to not see his kids.  (I have known so many divorced
parents where once the divorce and custody hearing were over the mom who
got custody & her child(ren)never heard from daddy dearest again.Utterly
amazing to me that some people do not want to see their kids, and I know
this does not happen all the time, but it apparently does happen)  Maybe
Daddy dearest was trying to hurt his exwife by hurting the kids.This
makes him even more of a creep. He probably was a creep before he ever
became a Scn'ologist.

In my own case, I have one parent that has gotten his money back frm
scn, and who was, for a time, involved in a "squirrel" group operated by
a friend.  I have another parent who has made her dislike of scn no
secret as she prefers traditional medicine,preachers,etc.  I have a
relative who had ect and heavy psychiatric drugs/institutionalization,
and is on the meds to this day, although not the other two things.I have
NEVER been advised, by ANY of the several orgs and missions in the
different parts of the country, to disconnect from my family.  Why?
Because my family has a live and let live attitude about my involvement
with Scn and I am on good terms with them, and they love me and are
proud of me, so there's no problem, real or imagined.  

Some of you may know of situations where people disconnected from a
family member when such action was entirely unnecessary.  

 All I can say to you is that people who disconnect from family when no
one is trying to stop them from doing what they want to do, where the
motive is purely manipulative, well, those people are wrong and they are
not practicing scientology.  An analogy would be with other religions,
where you have a Christian, Moslem or Jewish person who uses his or her
religion to make other people feel like dirt.  Not all members of these
religions do that, in fact most of the ones I met were pretty nice.  But
one DOES run across people who use their religious beliefs to try to
hurt and control others. What is that quote from Twain-- something to
the effect that Christianity would be a good idea if only the Christians
would practice it?  Well, I say the same about Scientology.

End of sermon.

Claire


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Zinj  
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From: zinji...@inreach.com (Zinj)
Date: 1998/06/28
Subject: Re: Disconnection

In article <35967D59.FCF84...@home.com>, swa...@home.com says...

Thanks for the sermon Claire. I do know abuses of the 'disconnection' policy.
And to tell you the truth that's what first got me interested enough in
Scientology to make me an opponent.

I've been aware of Scientology since the 60s, along with a lot of other cults
(and yes, I do mean it's a cult)

I didn't mind. I like people who are non-standard.
When I came back from Germany in the early 80s (after having gotten my
instruction from #11 of the evil psych-lords who rule the planet) I happened to
read a book by Norman Spinrad, 'The Mind Game', which while science fiction was
about a cult that was a thinly disguised copy of Scientology.

This book predated such fun stuff as Operation Snow White and Xenu and all of
the other horrors that are now well known.

It was even fairly sympathetic. But after 10 years or more it is still a very
good description of what I consider why I have to oppose Scientology.

I think that 'The Mind Game' and '1984' should be required reading for all, and
scientologists in particular.

If you have read '1984' then I'd ask you to reflect on it, and while you
haven't seen the horrors that scientology has and continues to perpetrate,
believe me.. they did happen and continue to happen.

Especially consider 'Newspeak' and what purpose it served.

regards
Zinj

--
I don't believe in the tech; think it's rubbish; think Hubbard was a
megalomaniac who in the end was eaten by the demons he released.
Don't forget - Last Rat off the Ship Goes to Jail


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 More options Jun 28 1998, 3:00 am
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From: tashb...@primenet.com (Tashback)
Date: 1998/06/28
Subject: Re: Disconnection

In article <35967D59.FCF84...@home.com>, Claire Swazey <swa...@home.com> wrote:

<snip>

> In my own case, I have one parent that has gotten his money back frm
> scn, and who was, for a time, involved in a "squirrel" group operated by
> a friend.  I have another parent who has made her dislike of scn no
> secret as she prefers traditional medicine,preachers,etc.  I have a
> relative who had ect and heavy psychiatric drugs/institutionalization,
> and is on the meds to this day, although not the other two things.I have
> NEVER been advised, by ANY of the several orgs and missions in the
> different parts of the country, to disconnect from my family.  Why?
> Because my family has a live and let live attitude about my involvement
> with Scn and I am on good terms with them, and they love me and are
> proud of me, so there's no problem, real or imagined.

I appreciate your thoughtful analysis of CoS's disconnection policy.

Your implication, though, is that if your family were antagonistic toward
CoS, the church would require that you choose between leaving your faith
and disconnecting from your family (after the obligatory efforts to try to
turn your family around). That's been my understanding of the
disconnection policy; please tell me if I'm wrong.

Forcing an individual to make such a choice seems horrible. If the person
actually believes that his spiritual future -- or salvation -- or whatever
it is that's so vitally important to him -- is at stake, and the
organization providing that much-valued service demands disconnection from
family ... well, you can see how the policy creeps some of us out.

Scientology does have a reputation for ripping families apart. If indeed
it forces parishioners to disconnect from their families when the family
remains antagonistic to the church, that reputation is well-earned.

> Some of you may know of situations where people disconnected from a
> family member when such action was entirely unnecessary.

>  All I can say to you is that people who disconnect from family when no
> one is trying to stop them from doing what they want to do, where the
> motive is purely manipulative, well, those people are wrong and they are
> not practicing scientology.  An analogy would be with other religions,
> where you have a Christian, Moslem or Jewish person who uses his or her
> religion to make other people feel like dirt.  Not all members of these
> religions do that, in fact most of the ones I met were pretty nice.  But
> one DOES run across people who use their religious beliefs to try to
> hurt and control others. What is that quote from Twain-- something to
> the effect that Christianity would be a good idea if only the Christians
> would practice it?  Well, I say the same about Scientology.

But the disconnection policy, even as you describe it in its proper
implementation, doesn't sound like a good idea. It sounds like a very sad
thing.

Tash


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LRonsScam  
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 More options Jun 29 1998, 3:00 am
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From: lronss...@aol.com (LRonsScam)
Date: 1998/06/29
Subject: Re: Disconnection

Your Ideas of disconnection are silly. Why do you think that Hubbard called the
person PTS or Potential Trouble Source if they didn't disconnect from an SP?
Because the entheta or truth they learned from that SP might influence them
away from Hubbard and his beliefs and cause problems for Scientology.

Hubbard's maxim, of a third unknown person can only start an argument amongst
two people is a case in point. If Hubbard took you by the arm and told you his
side of the story, as long as you never heard the other guys story you would
believe Hubbard right? So this PTS and Disconnection and almost every thing
else I have seen in Hubbard's jargon has to do with separating the individual
from other people's ideas and that my friend is what makes Scientology
brainwashing and a cult.
.
.
 __
In Xenu We Trust.....
 A does equal A, does equal A, does equal A. What was Hubbie trying to
say?.....
." Life is a cartoon." Howard Stern while referring to Lisa Marie Presley's
involvement with Co$.  


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Zinj  
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From: zinji...@inreach.com (Zinj)
Date: 1998/06/29
Subject: Re: Disconnection

In article <tashback-2806982236250...@ip-20-024.phx.primenet.com>,
tashb...@primenet.com says...

Actually Tash.. I think that the disconnection policy is fairly common in all
cults.. and they became religions.

It's certainly why I began disliking scientology.. but I also had a problem
when my kid brought back his books from school, one of which was 'Come Follow
Me'

This was a parochial school.. and when I saw the title I did a double take.

and I made a joke about it.. my mom.. who at that point was doing double duty
as grandmother/mom of a son who lives at home with his kid  didn't understand
my joke

My father did.. for a straight arrow he always had an evil sense of humor

the full quote is this
Leave your wife and your family, and come follow me

Zinj

--
I don't believe in the tech; think it's rubbish; think Hubbard was a
megalomaniac who in the end was eaten by the demons he released.
Don't forget - Last Rat off the Ship Goes to Jail


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From: indu...@aol.com (Inducto)
Date: 1998/06/29
Subject: Re: Disconnection

CoS' theoretical ideals sound nice, and are certainly sometimes practiced in
members' experience, but here is a repost of an interesting case of forced
disconnection for only the flimsiest of connections -- and possibly simply for
the purpose of punishing non-CoS outsiders designated SPs, by causing them to
suffer family disruptions --  apparently ordered at some of the highest levels
of CoS.

[REPOST FROM DEJANEWS]

Subject:      Relative of CBS-Mike Wallace ordered by Co$ to disconnect
From:         Martin Ottmann <martinottm...@yahoo.com>
Date:         1998/05/19
Message-ID:   <19980519115254.5016.rocketmail@send1c.yahoomail.com>
Newsgroups:   alt.religion.scientology

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The following is the content of a letter which was sent to Mary
Voegeding, Senior Executive of the "Flag Service Organization" in
Clearwater. The grammar and language shows that being a Scientologist
doesn't give you automatically better "communication skills".

If anyone wants to forward a xerox-copy of this letter to Mike
Wallace, please send me your snail mail adress and you'll get one.

Here it comes:

Feb. 1, '98

To: President, Mary Vogstin (sic) [Voegeding]
CC: MAA,                 Re: Rondi Leonard
CC: OSA
From:   Gloria Tinney

Re: Rondi Leonard, Solo NOTS Certainty auditor, being told that she
must disconnect from her mother-in-Iaw, Kappy Leonard because Kappy was
once married to Mike Wallace, CBS news "60 minutes" news correspondent.

Dear Mary,

The re is a potential flap going on concerning the above, Rondi
Leonard is my ex-husband's wife and is my daughter's step mother.
The situation, because Rondi has been at Flag now for 4 weeks at the
MAA and has not been able to continue her 6 months refresher and as a
result this has gotten onto my daughter Noelle's lines who I have been
handling and it violates KSW -ie. There is a misapplication of the
tech going on here re: this situation in my opinion.
I'll explain why:
Kappy Leonard, Rondi's "step" mother-in-law and her husband Ardy's
step mother, has not spoken to Mike Wallace in years. She had a son by
him, Chris Wallace who she sees regularly but she hasn't and does
not wish to be in comm with Mike Wallace at all. Rondi never has any
contacts with Mike Wallace at all and has maybe seen Chris Wallace his
son twice in 20 yrs. Chris Wallace is _not_ in any way antagonistic to
Rondi or Ardy about Scientology. Kappy is "interested" in Scientology
and has asked Rondi about the meter as
well as offering to take Rondi to the founding church to see the
renovations (Kappy lives in Washington, DC). Rondi and Kappy are in
good"_ARC_".
Rondi should not be asked to disconnect from a family member this
violates PTS tech of what LRH says about family disconnection.
If Rondi disconnects from her step mother-in-law this is sure to
create antagonism and bring attention to the fact that she is doing
so. It could create a vacuum effect which all manner of A=A=A be
filled into
the vacuum by family members such as Kappy or Chris Wallace. It can
make matters worse for us as a group as for Rondi and her family. They
cd (sic) [could] think that Rondi is being forced into this
=brainwashing= occults, etc. etc. This would make the church look
"bad." Rondi has been on the Solo NOTS Certainty level now for a year
and is setting a good example for the family as an in ethics
Scientologist. It does _not_ make any sense to cause her to disconnect
and create antagonism as well. It is out "PR" someone who is saying
that Rondi should disconnect. The person who is making this decision
is mis-duplicating the situation here and as a result mis-applying the
tech. I hope that you will be able to see me re:
this matter before I leave.
Rondi can be reached at 813-446-[XXXX] - she has been held up at the MAA
this cycle now for 4 weeks and taken off her lines. This situation has
gotten onto my daughters lines already and Noelle my daughter is
looking at this, this is not good PR for her as you know. I'm handling
her and want to get her moving on the bridge and this situation does
not help at all. She, (Noelle) has been really helpful to Rondi and
has encouraged Rondi to get the data communicated more clearly and
precisely re: this matter. But Rondi has been too upset by this and
unable to really get this communicated to the proper lines and
terminals. Someone is misinterpreting this family situation and making
Rondi the brunt of it. I can be reached at 813-441-[XXXX]. I'm here for
only a few days more so please do get back to me or let me see you? If
so what day and what time before Tuesday of next week?
Thanks for your consideration.

ARC, Gloria Tinney
LA phone # 310-392-[XXXX]
==
Martin Ottmann, Scharnhauser Str. 19
73760 Ostfildern/Ruit, Germany

"And you, you gonna get glasses!"
David Miscavige towards Martin Ottmann, Clearwater 1992
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Ydrrisil  
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From: ydrri...@aol.com (Ydrrisil)
Date: 1998/06/29
Subject: Re: Disconnection

Clare writes:>>Disconnection would be primarily used when someone one is

associated
with is antagonistic to the individual Scientologist.  Maybe because of
his involvement in Scn, or it could be for any other reason in which the
Scn'ologist is being given a very bad time to the point where they are
absolutely miserable.  The individual is encouraged to work things out
and communicate with whoever it is he isn't getting along with.  That's
where the biggest emphasis is.  Disconnection should only be used as a
last resort where nothing else is going to work.>>

  I realize that you prefaced your posting with the caveat "in my experience"
which is fair enough. However your communication leaves out the greatest single
source of disconnection - declare.
  If the church declares someone who is a friend of yours or who is family then
you will, sooner or later, be forced to disconnect from them. And yes this has
happened to me - both friends and family.
  You agreement to it is not required - should you refuse you will, ultimately,
be declared yourself for adherence to a suppressive person.
  This is one of the most evil aspects of this thuggish cult (and yes I know
full well where the word Thug comes from and it applies to this cult as well)
is that it forces disconnection to suit its own ends.

++++++++++++
Cavaliers - wrong but wromantic
Roundheads - right but repulsive


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From: tashb...@primenet.com (Tashback)
Date: 1998/06/29
Subject: Re: Disconnection

Claire, you're not responding to my post, although you seem to think you
are. Certainly incest and abuse are reasons to disconnect from folks.
Impedence of spiritual progress is another matter.

We're not talking about abusers. We're talking about folks antagonistic to
your church. And, as ydrrisil pointed out, we're also talking about family
members and friends who have been declared by the church.

You want to defend the concept that it's wise to disconnect from abusers
and molesters? Gosh, yeah, that's a good idea. But that's not what
Scientological disconnection is about, and you know it's not.

Tash


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Claire Swazey  
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 More options Jun 30 1998, 3:00 am
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From: Claire Swazey <swa...@home.com>
Date: 1998/06/30